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What is your attachment style?

A 10-item self-check based on the ECR adult attachment scale.See your anxiety and avoidance in relationships as numbers.

Rate each statement from 1 (not at all) to 5 (very much).

  1. 1.I often worry that my partner will leave me.
  2. 2.I feel uncomfortable getting too close to people.
  3. 3.I worry that my partner doesn't love me as much as I love them.
  4. 4.I find it hard to open up my deepest feelings to someone.
  5. 5.When my partner doesn't reach out, I anxiously wonder what I did wrong.
  6. 6.I feel burdened when my partner tries to depend on me too much.
  7. 7.I keep wanting reassurance that I am loved.
  8. 8.Independence matters to me, so I dislike depending on others.
  9. 9.I fear my partner won't meet my emotional needs.
  10. 10.When problems arise in a relationship, I choose to be alone rather than talk.

0 / 10 answered

What is an attachment style?

Attachment theory suggests that expectations formed with early caregivers carry over into adult romantic relationships. The ECR (Experiences in Close Relationships) is a widely used scale that measures adult attachment along two dimensions: anxiety and avoidance.

Two dimensions: anxiety and avoidance

Anxiety is how much you worry about being abandoned or unloved; avoidance is how uncomfortable you are with closeness and dependence.

Here, anxiety is the sum of the odd items (1, 3, 5, 7, 9) and avoidance the sum of the even items (2, 4, 6, 8, 10), each ranging from 5 to 25. The cutoff of 15 divides four quadrants.

Four styles

Secure (low/low), Anxious-Preoccupied (high anxiety), Dismissing-Avoidant (high avoidance), Fearful-Avoidant (high/high). This four-category model is based on Bartholomew & Horowitz (1991).

Please note

  • The items and scoring are adapted from the self-check published by tvN STORY's 'Lee Ho-sun Counseling Center' (Korean).
  • This is a 10-item short form, not the original research ECR (36 items) or ECR-R. Use it for self-reflection only.
  • Attachment styles are not fixed traits; they can change with relationship experiences. Don't label yourself or others by the result.
  • If relationships are causing you significant distress, consider seeking a professional counselor.

Sources

tvN STORY Lee Ho-sun Counseling Center — Attachment Style Test (original, Korean)Bartholomew & Horowitz (1991), Attachment styles among young adults
Attachment Style Test (Short ECR) | Turtle Project